My Counsel: IF YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE
Dear Friend,
Let me speak honestly with you, because I care about your future and your relationships.
People may like you, appreciate your talent, or even admire your passion, but they will not trust you deeply or go far with you if you are emotionally unstable. Trust grows where consistency lives. When your reactions change with your moods, people become unsure of where they stand with you, and uncertainty makes them withdraw—even when they mean well.
Your emotions are real, but they must not be in control. If emotions lead, relationships suffer. If emotions are disciplined, relationships grow. Learn to pause before you react. Not every feeling deserves a response, and not every reaction needs to be expressed. Stability is not silence; it is self-control.
Understand this: people commit to those who are predictable in character, not unpredictable in emotions. When you are calm under pressure, steady in conflict, and respectful even when hurt, people feel safe with you. Safety builds trust, and trust is what carries relationships, partnerships, and destiny connections forward.
This is not about pretending you are fine or suppressing pain; it is about choosing wisdom over impulse. Discipline your emotions through prayer, reflection, and intentional restraint. Ask yourself before reacting: Will this build or destroy trust?
If you grow in emotional discipline, you will notice a change—people will listen to you more, walk with you longer, and entrust you with greater responsibility. Stability will open doors that talent alone cannot.
Choose stability. Discipline your emotions. Your future relationships and progress depend on it.
Pastor/Counselor,
Wale-Rich Oladunjoye