My Counsel: HOLDING ONTO THAT GRUDGE IS COSTING YOU MORE THAN YOU REALIZE
A Word of Advice for You
I want you to hear this with an open heart: holding onto that grudge is costing you more than you realize. What happened to you was real, and the pain you felt was valid—but carrying it forward is slowly weighing you down. Every time you replay it in your mind, you relive the hurt, and without knowing it, you allow yesterday’s wound to interfere with today’s peace.
You may feel justified holding on, but understand this truth—the grudge is not protecting you; it is imprisoning you. It drains your emotional strength, clouds your judgment, and blocks your ability to move freely into the future God has prepared for you. You deserve better than a life tied to bitterness.
I want to encourage you to let go—not because they were right, but because you deserve peace. Letting go does not excuse what was done, nor does it mean you must trust the person again. It simply means you are choosing your healing over your hurt. You are deciding that this pain will not define you, control you, or follow you into the next season of your life.
Release is a process, not a one-time event. Take it step by step. Talk to God honestly about how you feel. Acknowledge the hurt, then consciously place it in His hands. Each time the memory returns, remind yourself: “I have released this. I will not carry it again.” With time, the weight will lift.
Listen closely: you cannot move forward while clutching what hurt you. Freedom, clarity, and emotional strength are on the other side of release. When you let go, you make room for peace, healing, joy, and new beginnings.
Choose freedom. Choose healing. Choose to live light again.
Pastor/Counselor,
Wale-Rich Oladunjoye