My Advice: REFUSE TO REMAIN A PRISONER OF YESTERDAY’S PAIN
Let me advise you from a place of truth and care:
You must refuse to remain a prisoner of yesterday’s pain if you truly want to move forward in life. What happened to you was real, and the pain was valid—but staying bound to it will only multiply the damage. Yesterday’s hurt has already taken enough from you; don’t allow it to steal your peace, your relationships, and your future as well.
Holding on to pain may feel like self-protection, but in reality, it slowly imprisons you. It affects how you love, how you trust, how you respond to people, and how you see opportunities. You may find yourself reacting to present situations with past emotions, judging today through the lens of yesterday. That is not healing—that is captivity.
I want you to understand this: healing is not denying the pain; healing is deciding that the pain will not control you anymore. You can acknowledge the wound without living inside it. You can remember what happened without allowing it to define who you are becoming.
If you do not release yesterday, you will unconsciously punish people who never hurt you. You will build walls where God intended bridges. You will miss good relationships because you are still guarding against old battles. And most painfully, you may delay the very restoration God is trying to bring into your life.
So here is your responsibility: choose forgiveness—not because they deserve it, but because you deserve peace. Forgiveness is not weakness; it is wisdom. It is the decision to unlock the door of a prison you were never meant to live in.
Let yesterday remain a lesson, not a life sentence. Learn, grow, heal, and move forward. Your future needs a whole heart, not a wounded one. And until you let go of yesterday’s pain, you will keep bleeding into today. Choose freedom.
Pastor/Counselor,
Wale-Rich Oladunjoye